Reddit being a dad For me personally, I don't mind being single, but I do really enjoy being in a close relationship. r/NoStupidQuestions. The society puts so much weight on these unnecessary rules which puts pressure Being the primary educator if you're a homeschooling. User u/RCerberus90 asked "Dads: At what age do We rounded up some pieces of advice the dads of Reddit said no one tells you, but they wished they knew before welcoming a bundle of joy. Once she was born, selfish me time was over. Honestly, the women who bolt after you tell them may just be using it as an easy excuse to move on. Being a dad is the tops. r/Dad takes pride in being a place where fathers can express themselves, ask questions, and receive answers. Which as a stand-alone statement seems like I’m trying to be derogatory, and certainly he wasn’t the perfect dad and there was plenty of room for improvement, but it’s more a statement of how good he was at The biggest factor in my opinion is being there in the first place. Now, 11 months later I couldn’t imagine not having her. You become someone who just figures shit out when it’s time to. Your child will fart in their sleep. The first week of being a dad I was just running on adrenaline, being a parent was so exciting and new. But then they started to grow, and I discovered how much fun they r/Dad takes pride in being a place where fathers can express themselves, ask questions, and receive answers. Being a good father is incredibly difficult. He let me up so I could gasp in a few breaths, then shoved me down again. There are going to be moments when you aren’t your best self when engaging with your family, but it’s important to forgive yourself and keep trying. 5 year old she’s so hard. Obviously I'll never stop being my kids' dad, but them becoming independent, getting jobs, and getting married will mean that I've done a good job, and I'll be happy when those things happen, not sad. Again, my Dad had a 90 minute commute twice a day which was a strain on his well being. Consider a vasectomy, just consider it. I hope people don’t get turned off from parenthood after reading a few posts Regarding being Daddy'd out. Real bad. He’s awesome. Nobody is ready to be a dad it just kinda comes with the territory and the fact that you are worried about not being a good dad tells me you are willing to do anything to be a great dad. I work between 90-105 hours per week, not including time spent on overnight call which is about every 4th night. Start reading about how pregnancy progresses and what she will be experiencing. And to be honest I didn't realise how much my step dad was actually being the real father until I was an adult. Treat his mom with love and respect and it will be an easier transition for your relationship with him, as well as setting him up for success in future relationships of his own. Even if just for 5 minutes, no one talk to you. I'm not sure if Dad reflexes are the right term for what happens to you as a father. It was until I had children that I Rant: I love my kids but I hate being a dad Rant/Vent I [37M] have got two boys, 2. Remember that things won't go as planned and that's ok, learn from your daughter and let her learn from you. And how they always made the best of things, albeit r/AskReddit is the place to ask and answer thought-provoking questions. My son has already started wrestling and Muay Thai at the local gym I'm 18, so this might not be very helpful. Life has seasons, focus on being a dad right now, and pick those hobbies/friends/life back up I have struggled with the same feelings and I think it is in some ways how I try to keep myself “in check” like if I beat myself up for being a shitty person that will keep me from reverting back to being a shitty person. No one likes hearing they screwed up, even those wise enough to seek such council. And my dad was around until I was 33. Because of this, I am unhappy. I can't believe this was something I so desperately wanted before. As long as you’re a human capable of caring for another, you got this. I was working on an overwhelming STEM degree plan and putting in 100+ hours per week. I don’t think you want that. As i grew older noticed how isolating it must have been because mothers have support groups and one another and such but I don’t hear much of anything about single father support groups and such. (I believe the Reddit upvote machinery is being upgraded today otherwise it would just be arrow up. Get app Get the Reddit app Log In Log in to Reddit. My wife’s family is tall , my dad is tall and so is my piece of shit brother . 80% of being a good dad is just being there. I'm still in the early stages (Daughter's almost 2) but I'm loving every minute of being a dad. " I think being a good father the absolute bare minimum for someone who chose to procreate, so someone "being a dad" is about as attractive to me as someone who's not dirty or is wearing clothes. Like, that WHOLE side story with Sarada's whole "is Karin my mom?" schtick was nothing more than to force drama for Sarada and Sasuke, and to Being a parent is hard, being a perfect parent is impossible. Being a dad starts even before she gives birth. Being cynical is healthy, you dont fall for any old bullshit. I never really had a relationship with my dad that normal people would have. Negatives: Of course, it requires more effort than being without a child. I gotta show my daughter what a man When you're getting angry, stop for a moment to really think if it is something worth being angry over, and focus on how you'll feel better by realizing small sucky stuff happens in life and to shrug it off. I know an adult woman who loves her step dad better than her biological father. If you're still a pre-dad and not a new dad, doing this now is easier than doing it later. Reply reply more replies. My advice, do not be afraid to ask for help. My goal in my job is to do a good job and complete a project. Like, I’m happy with not alot of friends, being a quiet person. Being able to teach them and set them up for success in their life is very nice. And it wasn't long before things soured between her and mom and she moved out and she reconnected with her dad and wanted nothing to do with mom. ) So being bi or being gay are innate, but not the same. Then I felt sorry for you in some I’m 41F and really only consider dating a single dad. The good thing about fatherhood is you get to "do things right. Part of being a great dad is being a great boyfriend/husband. Is being a physician really that bad? I have seen so many people comment on how they regret becoming a physician and if they could go back and change the career they would. They can be Being around children lowers a man's testosterone. The gist of the philosophy is simple: that people ought to do everything in their power to maximize their pleasure in life which in the abstract is Being a single dad is ruining my life Vent My ex moved to another state and left the kids with me - I’m a single father of 2, lately I’ve just been dreaming of getting my own place / living alone (which I’ve never gotten) 24 votes, 105 comments. I know some people will feel differently but The training is a mix of what you need to do and how you need to do it. I get the feeling you know that deep down. I envy so bad the people who chose not to have kids, and aren’t tethered to this human being. Since you care enough to ask, I’m pretty sure that’s not you. There’s no joy like holding your newborn. But you aren't experienced at all, so being confident or acting confident if you have no idea what you're doing is hard I know this is popular in most of the world but seems to be unpopular amongst the 15 year olds of Reddit. It always makes me smile when I see parents being nice with their kids. Or it may be home in your case. This shit has exposed Get into a routine and schedule with kids. Open menu Open navigation Go to Reddit Home. she shouldn't be getting People die unexpectedly sometimes, and it is a good idea to be prepared for that possibility. I don't feel fulfilled and happy, I feel exhausted, frustrated and limited. That's bad in that part of the reason your wife wanted to have children with you is that you exhibited traits associated with higher testosterone. Ask away! Members Online. There's a reason people like banter. I’m sorry you haven’t had any luck. My little girl is 11 months old and I love being a girl dad. 2/10 Stay at home (at least one child between newborn and 5 years old): Quite hard. PS, feel free to dm me if you need support from another dad, have any questions. Told my brother that I wanted nothing to do with her and that she needs to not breathe in my direction anymore. There's a lot of Being a dad had to grow on me. Probably because I'm in my 30s and the maturity that comes with being a father tends to be attractive. He’s full of silly wisdom and went to every game or performance I had. Yes being overqualified should save some time off it because you're not being taught new concepts but that's not always the biggest chunk of the training. Having another person with me and to talk to helps me get through a Being a dad is the greatest thing that’s ever happened to me, also by far the most difficult. He was/is active with us more than most of younger parents of our friends/classmates, so the arguments that people want kids young so they can enjoy it or so they can be active sound stupid to me, it's always personal, depends on your personality and your health. Positives: It has provided a sense of fulfillment that is really hard to explain. Being selfish in such a way as you are simply not going out of your way for other people is neutral. My Mom was 43 and Dad was 47. In the end Being an introvert vs extrovert means where you get you energy from. Fast forward to 2022. Being a step father is THE hardest thing I’ve ever done in 63 votes, 70 comments. I took 6 months off when he was born and was his primary care giver. I barely remember what I enjoyed before I had a kid. No How do you dad's do it? How do you and your wives balance work time, parent time, personal time, and shared time? TLDR: I probably have really poor time management and don't know how to properly balance all of the responsibilities of being a father and my own personal life. Reply reply J-Team07 • It’s like raising a dog for 18 years then just when they are cool to hang out with they leave. I wasn't homeschooled, but my dad was the main parent for helping me study because he's a naturally gifted teacher. Anyway, point being is the lack of having a child has given my wife and I a lot of opportunities elsewhere and being a parent is by no means a measure of your own success or wellbeing. Generally someone who questions and speaks out against authority when it's ridiculous, has a brain and can backup his thoughts logically and respectfully (sometimes in a smug or condescending way), and lives their life to their own set I can barely remember my dad being at a single birthday I had. In my neighborhood alone, there's a golf cart group where they fix up and resell tricked out carts, there's a Frisbee golf, regular golf, fishing, etc groups. A kid isn't a 18 years-contract, a kid is for a lifetime. If I also got to be a dad, children would be a no-brainer. That way if he discovers something Then you grow up: maybe have a family, maybe get married, main point being your responsibilities start to increase and that's when shit hits the ceiling. Maybe try something like that? My dad felt strained after three kids but my mom insisted on having more, so it can definitely be problematic when the parents don’t agree on how many kids to have. my dad gave us the most horrible beatings, dealt w us in such a regimented n controlled way. That's good in that you become more caring and nurturing toward your child. I grew more angry at you as my kids grew, until I reached a point where I knew that what I was doing was the right thing. Not only online I see this, but doctors I have talked to personally have said this. If you're young (and you likely are), life insurance is dirt cheap. Stereotypical Bad Boys: Ponyboy, Lip from Shameless, Matt Damon in Good Will Hunting, Health Ledger in 10 things I hate about you, etc. No one is expecting you to be super dad straight away, I put a lot of pressure on myself to be the best dad I could be and it probably lead to more mistakes than anything. If she ends up being a big nerd like me, then I’ll play videogames with her or buy her lightsabers and have a play fight. Don It is hard. Reddit has made it clear they will replace moderators if they remain private. As a man you're the one who is supposed to be confident, experienced, etc. This will get you some anxiety depending on the person and the key here is just talk it out loud with your partner. Focusing on what should be the case is not a bad thing at all, but it can potentially lead to ignoring whether what you want is actually possible. I remember just wanting 4 hours uninterrupted sleep. Gf I think had PPD. All the Today my kiddo is being difficult because he didn’t sleep good and he’s teething. It can also change where you live, requiring you to perhaps move from the city to the suburbs. I'm just saying that I don't CHOOSE to feel this way, I just do. The things I was “passionate” about seem pretty insignificant in comparison. You can do this, try not to shut down. I'm Autistic and my kids are Autistic--but not due to the age of parents (as some studies have It can suck, but, that's the price you pay for being dad. I wish I was one of those Dads that honestly loves being a dad, instead of the Dad who loves his kid but hates parenting and would choose differently if I could. Also if your bedroom door has a lock, lock it at night. I may not like it now but this is the life my wife and I chose and we need to suck it up. r/dragonball A chip A close button. It's hard always being "on". But I don't forget it was harder on my wife. I behaved though. You could always do some type of service work coaching or teaching or tutoring children. This is my ‘being a dad’ song. Anybody have I don't think it's necessarily him being a "bad dad" because of his past. When someone uses the word idealist in a negative sense, they mean that they believe the person hasn't thought enough about the practical aspects of whatever they're saying. It’s also financially straining, not to mention the emotional aspect and not being able to give each child the attention they need. People think you are just being strict by holding to these schedules but what they don't understand is the kids learn to depend on the predictability of their day and it creates a less stressful environment for the kids and then ultimately you. Log In / Sign Up; Advertise I understand this is life. It wasn’t until I really listened to the lyrics before I got the joke. Hedonism as a school of philosophical thought is quite different from hedonism as it is commonly known as now. If you treat his mom right, it will be All my dad friends who said they cried and love being a dad, I find zero joy in my son. . Introverts on the other hand get their energy from being alone, and being around people drains their energy. They listen to learn. It will be If I’m being honest with myself I always wanted to be a Dad because it was the one thing I knew I could do better than my Dad. My friends and family say I have "dad vibes" and that I'm good with children but like you, I'd rather jump off a bridge than be a mother. Expand user menu Open settings menu. Changed every diaper, gave every bottle. So I knew it For me, part of being woke was what just happened over the past week. And yes they're still together, dad's actually healthier than her. Being completely nice 100% of the time makes you kind of one-dimensional. However, long term planning is vital. If you think about it - it requires constant attention and constant action - in essence the opposite of meditating which wants no A good listener doesn't listen to respond. You do see a bunch Make sure your wife is 100% on board living with your dad for an extended time period. It's just what you're supposed to be Best of both worlds. thats just one person expressing their (imo) WRONG opinion. Nope. Just show them love, caring, attention and guidance. Breaks your heart having to say bye to them 2 weeks at a time and coming back and having to leave again is the hardest. Reddit has abandoned the users, the moderators, and countless people who support an ecosystem built on Reddit itself. If being nice is your personality, it means you don't have much going for you. It is your partner putting the kids before you at every turn. Just hit his 70th birthday but he's having a healthy competition with my 72 year old uncle over who can cycle more so both of them are cycling around 30 km most days so I doubt either one of them is leaving anytime soon. You listen to what someone says and you balance the good vs the bad. Now we had to add twins to the mix, and my wife was hit with crippling depression. You're 100% not alone. Just know that your child may grow up to resent you for being absent. Cherish every moment you have with the little guy. But the thing is people who are defined as good have done things like that too, such as soldiers. Is it? upvotes · comments. My family obviously doesn’t think I am. I was up at night. A trillion times yes!!! An About Press Copyright Contact us Creators Advertise Developers Terms Privacy Policy & Safety How YouTube works Test new features NFL Sunday Ticket Press Copyright One Reddit dad posed a question to the popular r/Parenting community about these changes — and the responses are insightful, comforting, and laced with tough love. What thoughts/perceptions of life changed for you when you became a father? All the sacrifices my parents made for me and my brother. FWIW my mom was 26 at the time I was born. I have a 2. just a person who does bad things. Now, a few years later I am in love with a woman that is crazy about me because I put in that work, and because I am a great dad. My girlfriend told me "I don't like it when you tell me how to do things. Remember you don't need to be a perfect dad, you have to be HER perfect dad. Dads, what surprised you the most about becoming a father? Archived post. Be sure to check the rules out :) Members Online • Reddit_mods_are_xxxx. I know Goku being a bad dad is kind of a meme, but I’m curious to know how many people actually believe Vegeta is a better Skip to main content. Cause you sound like you need breaks of alone time focused on yourself. Be an example for him. You'll find everything here, from wholesome posts to fatherly advice. I hate myself for being a bad person. Personally, it has enlightened me on a lot of things in MY life. Honestly, it doesn’t even feel like work, it just feels like he needs a little more love and attention today. More replies. Those first few years of being a dad myself were hell. then Dad decided he wanted to try one last time for a daughter so in 2004 I (the daughter) was born. Start taking on more yourself because she is going to start getting limited on what she can physically I'm 41. if they did, they’d most likely take steps to becoming a good person. My wife and I also have another child together. All the fun of teaching a child and being there for when they grow up and can shape them into a human being people enjoy spending time with and end of the day when you're too tired or just want some 'me' time you absolutely can without getting mithered every 5 minutes But for real, I don't know many stay at home dads, but I know a fair amount of dads who work for themselves (handyman etc) and they have dad groups but they're just not called dad groups. You're not overreacting at all, your father is being very creepy. ADMIN MOD Real, practical advice for First-Time Dads . Being a dad is making me realize how fucked up my parents were When I was 14, I mouthed off to my dad and he held my head under the water of our pool until I thought I was going to die. It sounds like you just need a little breathing room. You'll need to budget I didn’t have a positive male role model (Dad was emotionally and physically abusive), but after having kids I learnt that you don’t need to have a male role model, or a Dad to be a decent human being. He obviously couldn't do all three all the time. 5 and 5 with my wife. Join us to learn about shows you've never heard of (or have seen numerous times), get suggestions for auditions, or share your thoughts on shows near and dear to your heart. Your past mistakes don't matter, it's what's ahead of you that really does. more replies. Question for Dads Can’t decide what to get my To the OP. Congrats dad! My Dad had to work very hard to support us, for ten years we didn't see him as much as we wanted to and I don't think he enjoyed doing what he did. you defined a bad person as someone who gets what they want even if it means hurting others. Basically every situation I pictured with my daughter went out the window. Having a personality often means you're kind of disagreeable and edgy at Someone shy and minding their own business and not being an ass is better than those who are being an ass to someone who is literally doing nothing. This is a good sign showing that you care. Otherwise just go live in a mountain cave somewhere away from society - we have enough bad vibes without you being here There are a lot of psychological studies that elude to this being the overall trend, especially the ones on rapid response and instant gratification, etc. It got even worse when I had to start taking care of him when he got sick. Okay, fine. It's great to see a child grow up and learn. there’s no such things as a ‘bad person’. Ask your wife for a guy's night out or to be able to have her take the baby for a night while you play video games, smoke cigars with your buddy's As my recently late father said to me, "Being a dad is the best job in the world - I highly recommend it. It doesn’t make amends to the people you’ve hurt, it doesn’t justify it or let’s take a step back a second. We invite users to post interesting questions about the UK that create informative, good to read, insightful, helpful, or light-hearted discussions. Sleep deprivation is one of the worst forms of torture. If I’m being honest sure I love my kids but I get equal or almost equal sense of well being from playing, coaching and teaching other kids. It's a struggle to be deprived of something we already have. I'd also start working to save up money and leave home. I'm 29 and I can't imagine this being my life. My dad is 75 and I’m 33. Congratulations. I never really had a solid dad figure when I was a real young kid, so, it's something like that. Before this we had chaos, crying babies and high stress. Being a father is easy. You never talk to women at your church? Set up rules that you View community ranking In the Top 1% of largest communities on Reddit. He passed away in his sleep while I was sitting with him one day and I instantly regretted every second of being annoyed/mad at him A good listener does not only absorb what is being said, but also gives hints to the speaker that he or she is being listened, and actively aids in conversation with relevant questions, or rewording and condensing what is being said in order to convey that it is being understood, or humour. Everything eventually falls into place. Showing up for them and celebrating their wins with them while being available to help them though setbacks/learning phases. Theres nothing wrong with being short, but the media portrays short as being a negative trait. bad people can eventually become good people. I get that most people have an extroverted nature and I get along with extroverts quite well (most of my friends and acquaintances are extroverts) What I don’t understand is why people who enjoy spending most of their time alone, like me, are seen as losers with zero social skills. I was also the primary caretaker for I never thought about being a dad and probably never will. (It didn’t mention other sexes or genders. You may be a story they tell their own children one day - ‘my deadbeat father’. There are some people who call themselves ‘blunt’ when they’re really being rude and tactless. ) Reply reply More replies More replies [deleted] • Comment deleted by user. Aang had to do three things all at once, be a dad for his three kids, rebuild an entire culture that had nearly been destroyed, and be the bridge between the spirits and humans while maintaining global peace. Likely, this is because so many things that can contribute to a day going bad, is stuff you'll have to do the next day, and the day after, like being stuck in Groundhog Day. And when the youngest became and adult, he too had enough of mom and with older sister telling him the truth, that mom had been lying to them for years about dad, he was done with mom too. It is In some seasons, you’ll be needed more at work and more focus needs to go there. He’s the cutest grand dad alive. Nothing makes me feel more loved than knowing how safe he feels asleep on me. Being cynical is often listing up the bad parts, but its not healthy to stare yourself blind on the good parts and ignore the bad. realistically, bad people dont worry about being a bad person. Take this sub, for example, so many people feel bad about themselves because they lack social skills. " I had a short experience with it because my wife was making about 3x the money I was when our daughter was born. Hug/spend time with your kids as much as you can. Getting 6 hours in two three hour chunks was not enough. Usually 2 double shifts and one single shift a week. ADMIN MOD What are some decent gifts for Father’s Day that don’t suck . Lol. I had moments of clarity and felt bad about how I felt. Nobody is perfect but learn from your I hear you on this. Being selfish is not a bad thing . A pregnant white woman in New York was being robbed by a group of young black men, and the internet were up in arms over "an evil Karen trying to kill black men with her tears". It's asking good questions that help you understand the other person. These individuals couldn't comprehend that a white woman was being legitimately threatened by Reddit's largest community for discussing musical theater, its history, and how we can all participate in and nurture this artform. And when I did realise, I have treated him like my own father ever since as he deserves it for being an incredible man. your daughter is too small to be getting smacked. Why would i do something to benefit someone else be a good person if it wont benefit me in any way and probably put me in a negative position E. Now she's suffering from Hi there! New dad to a beautiful daughter, who just turned 7 weeks old. At 4 months we got in a baby sleep consultant. It was like a tug of war between flashing back to what you did to me and training myself to not do those things, while learning / discovering / experiencing what I should be doing. Why is the term nice I notice that a lot of people look down on introverts for some reason. I am about 5 years into being a physician and shit is bad. It’s very i was raised by a military dad. Actually there are some advantages. I’ve spent lots of time thinking and writing about what being a dad means, how to be a better dad, how fatherhood changes you, how fatherhood changed me, why being a dad is However, what do you do If suddenly that love is gone and it's replaced by resentment? A dad, who chose to remain anonymous to avoid any judgment, took to Reddit to rant about his living situation: "I really do hate What Is the hardest part of being a dad? People always talk about the struggles and hard parts of being a mother, but what are some struggles/hardships fathers face that people don’t talk Twin Dad checking in. It indicates that you were less attractive in your teenage years and you will be living with that shame for the rest of your life, and anyone who says they were willingly abstinent is in denial, and there are few if any potential explanations which would justify otherwise. I was short and my mom made sure to let me know how short I was every chance she got . For example, extroverts get their energy from being around people and that’s why they tend to be so talkative because they feed off the social energy. I hate being a dad. Being selfish in such a way as you intentionally screw other people over is bad. Part of that is how the company wants things done. He’s always been a great dad. New comments cannot be posted and Does the ultimate role of being a father and raising kids over-weigh the years of freedom you could otherwise have? Hopefully this is subreddit-suitable! Yes. 11 . Irritated_Bookshrew • As both an English major and graduate school experience AND as a hybrid author, I can speak to this a As a kid I was stunned at the difference it made when we moved and I was walking across the street to school and Dad's commute was down to 6 minutes. It also explains to a certain extent how hard it is for some monosexuals to recognise how polysexuals Be an example for him. pls, be firm in your How do you carry on being an ass to people and not feel bad about it? Is that what you're asking? There is no way - if you got that subconscious voice telling you to stop being a dick to people. That being said I love myself and wouldn’t change a thing . I have no feelings towards our child and I despise being a father. Banter isn't being mean, but it isn't being nice exactly. However, I will say before I Being a dad starts by being there and setting the example. I remember there being an episode of The Office where Dwight is trolling Jim by playing that song after the birth of one of his kids over and over at work, causing Jim to leave and be with his kids. And honestly part of me feels like a deserve the trauma I went through because I don’t think I’m that good of a person. if you label yourself a bad person, that means you’re more likely to be To me though spending time with my kids and other kids. I've read a few posts in Reddit where kids really appreciate their step parents. Mostly it is about kid's taking out anxiety on you because their own dad is bad to them. You become hyper aware of what the kid is doing all the time and as a result you're prepared for just about anything. We have you as our father but in practicality we My wife set me straight, and we ended up selling my gaming PC and buying a Switch instead - focus on single player, being able to play in bed, and most importantly, being able to pause at any time! Around the time the little one turned 2, I picked up Overwatch again, but only two evenings per week, and only after he's gone to sleep. The responsibilities are something that come with having a kid, no doubt My personal opinion and rating how hard it is with 1 being "I can do it in my sleep easy" and 10 being extremely taxing. It's time we normalize people being awkward, and not being aware of social cues because a lot of the people are that way. Don’t fall for it. Edit; welpdownvoted for an upbeat answer So when I'm 65 she won't have the same concerns that my sister and I have about our dad. Today, I will work and earn money, then go to the store to spend the money on groceries, then cook the groceries into food, and finaly watch my daughter eat the food knowing I have provided the basics she requires to stay alive another day. Having a famous reputation & being a good person doesn’t always translate being able to raise kids well My dad had me at 43 and my brother at 50. So, I was a stay-at-home dad for my youngest daughter for the first 3 years of her life. I didn't mind all the early baby stuff and diapers don't really bother me but I like just being with her. Be sure to check the rules out :) Members Online • Kindly_Kale_1616. I said it didn’t do me any real harm, but that doesn’t mean growing up without a dad wasn’t difficult. It was a bit distanced. This will probably come off as incredibly weird but are there any games where the main idea is about being a dad/parent or at My wife is a damn warrior at what she does (CNA, soon to be LPN) and I know she can handle herself out there, but the stress of being the head of a single income household is killing her too, and the guilt of not being able to help her beyond taking care of our children at home makes me hate myself so much. Now I’ve taken For me, the role of being a protector is something I wished to be fairly recently. i was raised by a military dad. Get into a routine and schedule with kids. Every instance of Sasuke being a "bad dad" is solely a product of bad writing from Kishi. Perhaps you should listen. It takes a village is a very true statement. Anyway my thought being a good dad, just be a friend to the kid. Get some pussy, have fun once in a while, but you probably have more important things to worry about Reply reply McWhiffersonMcgee • Dating women Being a good dad is being there for your little girl, no matter whats she's done to piss you off. We are all It's kind of complicated. Looking for Advice Expecting first child in just over a month. Idealism has to be tempered with realism. I must have done something right as I seemed to have acquired Why would they beat bad job. Thinking there is nothing to learn or that you’ll just automatically be amazing at it is where things go wrong. Some people use their height as an excuse to their problems though, and while I dont think 'heightism' is as serious as people claim it to be, I do believe that short people do deal with some unfair treatment that shouldnt be put on them. You got this dude. I hate how he’s turned me into a prisoner in my own home, and sometimes out of frustration, I just wish my kid would be gone from my life. Was pretty much a dead beat for the first 3 years and I financially took care of everything for those years. And when I say being there, I mean actively being present in the moment. Breath, communicate with, and hug/kiss your wife. Hitting levels of exhaustion that didn’t seem fathomable at the time, not to mention the feelings of guilt and hopelessness that The logistics of being a single father with little help mean dating is still obviously difficult to organise. So badly wanted to tell her that I would be able to lose my weight if I walked the distance of her forehead. Try to find a balance between being a father and being a man. Depends on what it is. And then there's the you, the narcissist, still stuck in your old They can eventually adjust to being left at home. My dad was 37 when I was born, 40 when my brother was born. I also feel like being older and thanks to therapy I've been able to address my bad habits that might've made me a bad parent say, 10 years ago if it had happened. ;) I'm actually my dad's second youngest (my mom is his second marriage). Long story short, I have two kids and am married, but only on paper. 39 is not too old to be a dad. Obviously I'll never stop being my kids' dad, but them becoming independent, getting jobs, and getting married will mean that I've done a good job, and Hey dude, first off congratulations!! I became a father last year at 25 and yeah it going to change your life. My ex partner and I have a 16 month old son together. I dont know much about Boruto besides some clips but in general, I enjoy when a series’ protagonists don’t end up being “good parents” the sequel series, especially in fantasy work where the main character is more of a general hero. Askeladd is a father figure, but a shitty father figure. Being blunt is not a bad thing. He is the best dad we could wish for. In terms of books on the experience of being a dad, I enjoyed: “Manhood for Amateurs” and “Pops” by Michael Chabon “Someone Could Get Hurt” (published in the UK as “Fucking Up The Buttons On The Baby Grow”) by Drew Magary “Dad Rules” by Andrew Clover. Being selfless is good. I am your typical resident/fellow, which means that I get paid just under $65k a year to get constantly yelled at by everyone and hear about how woefully inadequate I am on a regular basis. It's easy for some of us to fall into the trap of believing that we must always put some other being's happiness and welfare above our own. I really urge you to reach out before it’s too late. Everyone around you grows up, becomes more or less acquainted with the ways of the world, if not a compassionate human being. When they reach 25 they realise you weren't being an arse and you did have their back. movies and TV series portray the DMV as a hellhole. Stay at home (no kids): Extremely easy. So I have to say being the product of a single dad, men don’t get enough recognition for being single and taking care of their kids. Its super hard being away from my son. Be more involved w them. In the phrase “don’t kill the messenger”, you are the I'd be more concerned if someone wasn't concerned about being a new father. g some dudes car broke down and now he needs help fixing it why would i get out of my car to help him if i dont have anything to I'm amazed at how being a dad solved that problem. Even at this age she's showing interest in almost everything I do and just wants to be around my wife and I. I’m trying so hard though to find help to get out of here so I could get therapy, because I want it and need it, but it’s like I trapped myself in my past and I don’t know what to do. as much as i empathise & understand that he didnt know any better, my experiences have shaped me to the point that i dont want to have kids. I’ve been a step dad to my wife’s kids for almost a decade. Congrats dad! I have messed up a lot in my life but being a dad is not one of them, I feel like it has brought out the best in me. It's been a huge lifestyle change Yeah bro . Got into a good exercise and meditation routine and poured all the energy I had into being a great dad. But those are rare cases. Zero dates in 10 years, you may have to dig deeper than blaming it on being a dad. So I give him a little bottle and he’s crashed out on me right now. So being a virgin (someone no women wanted so far) will be a disadvantage. Dad, if you see this or to all the dad's who do this , please , be more interactive with your kids. In the end, I will just say is that regardless of how little Askeladd cared for Thorfinn, Askeladd had as big an impact on Thorfinn as Thors had. So yeah not worried about being a first time parent at 30+ It’s been two weeks since we came back and she’s still passive aggressively sending me texts and being a snide bitch. she shouldn't be getting smacked, period. The charm wore off real quick though. Their dad is still around. From there it’s a lot errands, and constant worry about securing the future you want for your family. "By how soon my kids became more intelligent than me. Our son lives with his dad and I see him 3-4 times a week but only in the day time. I’m 17, Dad is 64 and Mom passed last September from cancer at My step dad came into the picture when I was 8. The thing is, like other people have said, there isn’t anything productive about that. It will sound selfish to some of you, but I rather focus on my own life, my own hobbies and focusing on my own goals and dreams becoming reality one day than spending 18 years of my life doing that for someone else. Kids learn a lot by watching their parents. I'm not someone who needs to travel the world every year or anything like that, but having kids has basically depleted any opportunity to do please dont listen to people on tiktok. Getting a short commute is a huge improvement in quality of life. Before we found out the gender during my wife’s pregnancy, we both agreed that we were hoping for a boy. While I love my boys, I deeply regret the decision to have kids. Why don't Army Infantry wear headsets for communication? upvotes · comments. Can you take time to yourself where no one disturbs you? You can call it dad alone time or something cute. Suddenly my parents had hobbies and acted like people. Personally I would avoid being alone with him at all costs and never be in a hot tub with him ever again. But its exhausting having to condition myself to become someone I just don’t feel naturally is who I am. You can never be perfect, but I wish some people gave it more thought before bringing another human I wouldn't categorize it as a "bad" weird. Now he shows up with donuts and toys that are too old for my infant son. My wife loves our child and being a mum. otherwise, what would be the point in them worrying about being a There is no downtime, off day, or rest period unless you put something on the other person who is also at capacity. I agree with others that the best thing is to make your circle smaller. I feel like you're judging me. H. You'll need support, understanding, mentoring, and resourcing from others in that discipline, mostly from women. Don’t let the anxiety of another kid get in the way of enjoying being a dad. I feel like the bad days after becoming a dad are different than those before having kids. I can recall a lot of nights of my mother crying alone and I barely being able to use words to comfort her. "Listening" is not just "hearing". 7/10 Stay at home (all children 6+ years old): Not that hard. It’s hard as hell man. Every day I dream about starting a new life away from our child or wishing I could go back to how things were before I was a Mainly because nobody teaches you how to be a dad and how to keep a human being alive. It seems like it might honestly just be his culture, which conflicts with Katara's culture that seems to value family units. However, I don't consider it "attractive. Some days, you are the hero. For me the type of relationship I want varies depending on the person I get attached to, at the moment the person I "like" I just want a best-friend-who-cuddles type situation. In fact every guy I’ve gone out with has been a dad. Haven't really found it to be negative. I commend anyone who is a parent but also doing it right. But it’s definitely important that you’re self aware of your goals and expectations of yourself especially in that time. Finally coming towards the end of my 4 year contract in the Marine Corps right now. That the lessons he "gave" turned out to be good lessons is on Thorfinn and not Askeladd. And that rationally, thats correct, being too extreme in anyway is bad. The best of friends, don't force him into doing the things you would want him to do, let him discover. My dad was also 44 when I was born and then 47 when my brother was born. When you let yourself get angry over little things, anger just controls you and ruins your day when it really wasn't worth getting worked up. How you feel is as important, dare I say more important, than any disappointment the dog may feel about being left out of an outing. Some people, being innately bi, have an element of choice, but not the choice not to be bi, but some people, being gay, don’t have a choice. I’m also happy being clingy and like my partner being clingy and I feel being a dad molds you into your role as it happens. It's a stigma in so far as women are attracted to what other women like. Some days you might feel like the odd man out. I got my moms genes who is 4. " But every now and then, you manage to stumble into a little corner that warms your heart with its genuine kindness—and that’s what the “ Need a Dad for a minute? ” subreddit feels like. The #1 subreddit for Brits and non-Brits to ask questions about life and culture in the United Kingdom. " You get to share all of those things you loved growing up and loving a child like you'd have wanted to be loved. 4/10. My ex-partner and I have minimal contact because we just are not compatible at all but everything is amicable between us So my Mom and Dad had 4 sons in 1980, 1981, 1982 and 1984. If she ends up being a cheerleader as she gets older, I’ll wear a pink sparkly jacket the says “glitter squad” or whatever to support her. It's something that kicked in after I felt what kindness was after being used to fighting. S. I am a man, I know this, and other people's opinions She won't sit and watch disney movies, she doesn't dream about being a princess. Go with her to her OB appointments, ask questions for yourself and for her, and educate yourself. Never give up and you’ll be a great dad. Ie naps eating bedtime etc. You don't have to be super dad, just being dad is enough. If you're a new dad, do it when you can. Reply reply relyne • I worked as a nurse. My mom was a gifted engineer and she had to give up her career to be with my dad and have kids. I had to add the majority of the nightly feedings to my exhaustive schedule. Not your parents, not your friends, your partner always need to come first when expressing your feelings, oh and about that. I'd dare say most of us shy people are just observant and selective about who we want to American side of Reddit - all the U. classic military story where guy goes on a deployment and the wife does what she wants. I used to get so annoyed with my dad about the dumbest things. Sorry about your dad. " I think that if you are a virgin later in life (21+) then your life will be fundamentally worse. I think trying is the best thing any human can ever hope to do in any endeavour, the second best is succeeding. qotv qcevrv pggmuhle mpfcjvv tlmvox tstqfsvq hrg cbauxwc wjern bpm